Why This Breastfeeding Mom Was Asked to Leave a YMCA Locker Room

 Last week, Tiffany Hoag was breastfeeding her 8-week-old son in an Oklahoma City YMCA locker room when a staff member forced her and another nursing mom to relocate, People reports.

“I went to the women’s locker room and changed him, then he started to get a bit fussy, so I started to nurse him,” Hoag told KFOR, a local news station. “The next thing you know, she’s escorting this lady out of the locker room, and then she comes back for me and says, ‘You can’t be in here, I’m going to have to ask you to leave.’”

The staff member escorted both women to the family locker room, which Hoag said was messy and lacking in space. “It’s dirty, towels on the floor…it’s a toilet, a shower, a seat, and a sink,” she said.

This was Hoag’s first time nursing in public, and she told KFOR that she’s afraid to do it again after this incident. “I was really embarrassed and upset because people were looking, and he was crying because he was still hungry.”

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“I’m honestly humiliated, I don’t want to go back to that Y ever again, it’s really discouraging,” she said.

The YMCA, to its credit, has apologized in a statement. They believe the staff member was misinformed of the gym’s policy, which allows breastfeeding anywhere in the facility.

“The Y is a place for families, and we support breastfeeding moms in our facilities. We believe this was likely an unfortunate mistake with our staff member misinterpreting our locker room policy, which states that children are not allowed in adult locker rooms,” reads the statement obtained by KFOR. “We are looking into this particular incident further with the staff members involved in an effort to ensure that no other moms have this happen in the future. We are very sorry that this new mom had a negative experience and will continue to train our staff to understand that moms can breastfeed anywhere they would like to do so in our facilities.”

Women are allowed to to nurse in public in 46 states and the District of Columbia, including Hoag’s home state of Oklahoma. But this incident, unfortunately, joins a growing list of stories in which moms were asked to move or cover up.

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Watch This Pregnant Meteorologist Address the Bullies Who Called Her Body 'Gross'

We’ve heard of fat-shaming, but pregnancy-shaming? Seriously?

Yep, it has come to this: Kristi Gordon, a meteorologist for Canada’s Global News channel, is six months pregnant with her second child, and she’s been getting hate mail from viewers about her appearance.

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Hurtful? Crazy? Absolutely. But Gordon recently got the upper hand by reading some of the deplorable messages on the air during a special segment. A sampling:

“Nowhere on North America TV have we seen a weather reader so gross as you.”

“Your front end looks like the Hindenburg and your rear-end looks like a brick [expletive] house. We now turn off Globel [sic]. Cover up or take time off.”

“Buy some decent clothes and have more respect for your unborn child.”

“Looser tops would look much more professional.”

In a blog post she wrote after the segment was filmed, she shared that one e-mail went as far as calling her a “Hussy!”

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Gordon said that she was actually expecting some of the negativity because she had gotten a similar response when pregnant with her first child. “You can’t completely hide something like this,” she said on-air. (The question being, as anchor Robin Stickley noted: Why would you want to?)

But then came a moment of remarkable candor: “I feel like I’m a pretty confident person—I wouldn’t be in the this industry if I wasn’t. I don’t feel that this is really affecting me,” Gordon said. “I thought about some of the things I did last night. I checked myself out in the mirror a couple times just to see how big I’m getting. I asked my husband, ‘Am I not seeing it? Am I getting really big?’”

“It wasn’t until I went to bed that I realized, despite me thinking that these guys are crazy…it’s amazing that when you say something mean about someone it still affects them.”

In just a few short minutes, Gordon managed to make the haters look pretty small and insignificant—while, unwittingly, becoming a heroine for working women everywhere. In fact since it aired, the station was reportedly flooded with emails and notes of support—including tweets from other pregnant women, sharing photos of their own baby bumps.

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Why Alyssa Milano Is So Frustrated That Heathrow Airport Confiscated Her Breast Milk

Nine hours after actress Alyssa Milano tweeted about the challenge of using a breast pump on an airplane came this:

Ten ounces?! This nursing mom would have freaked.

It sometimes takes me 20 minutes to produce just 1 or 2 ounces of milk; it could take hours to collect 10. I know some moms who get up in the middle of the night to pump enough milk for the next day. I can’t imagine watching so much “liquid gold” get tossed in the trash.

The most frustrating part of Milano’s story: The agents said they would have let her keep the milk in her carry-on if she was traveling with her baby, 7-month-old Elizabella Dylan. Huh?

“Why would I need to pump if I had the baby with me????” Milano pointed out in an exasperated tweet.

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Heathrow Airport responded:

If that’s the case, there could have been a simple fix. “I would have happily spread milk in different containers (which I travel with) to comply to those liquid rules. Instead, milk was taken away with no discussion. Shampoo, lotions, etcetera [sic] were simply tested and handed back with no issue. Makes no sense at all,” she wrote.

In the U.S., breast milk is exempt from the TSA’s 3.4-ounce liquid carry-on rules: Travelers flying with or without a child may bring as much breast milk on board as they need to, as long as they alert an officer at the beginning of the screening process.

Heathrow Airport’s response to Milano should have been an apology—and a promise to revisit its policy for moms who pump.

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Ciara's Better

How the heck did Ciara get back to that pre-baby bod so quickly? According to her trainer, Gunnar Peterson, one move the singer used is the Dumbbell Curtsy Squat to Lateral Raise. “Curtsy squats work the glutes through a different plane of motion and create a unique demand on the core,” he explains. “Lateral raises challenge balance and elevate the heart rate.” Steal Ciara’s sculptor to slim down in 2 to 3 weeks.RELATED: 3 Double-Duty Strength Exercises

How to do it: Stand with feet hip-width apart, arms at sides and an 8- to 10-pound weight in each hand (A). Cross left leg behind right and rest toes on the floor. Squat (B). Return to “A,” then raise arms out to sides, squeezing back at the top (C). This is 1 rep. Do 3 or 4 sets of 6 to 8 reps per side, 3 or 4 times a week.

But that isn’t the only exercise that helped the singer shed those 60 (!) pregnancy pounds. Here, Peterson offers two more that he prescribed to help get the singer back to show-off stomach status.

Go to move: Dumbbell Walking Lunge With Deadlift

“The walking lunge to deadlift will hit the glutes and hamstrings so thoroughly it will surprise even gym veterans,” notes Peterson. “Not to mention, your heart rate will soar.”

How to do it: Start with feet together, holding 8- to 10-pound dumbbells in each hand, at sides. Take a big step forward with right foot as you bend knees, lowering down until both knees are at 90 degrees. (The front thigh should be parallel to the floor, and knees behind your toes.) Rise out of lunge, and then hinge forward at your hips, keeping your back flat as you lower the weight down toward feet while lifting left leg back behind you. Return to standing then step left foot forward and repeat move on opposite side. Do 2-3 sets of 12-16 reps.

Go to move: Banded crunches

“The banded crunch is a more intense version of the old standard,” Peterson explains. “Exterior resistance is a must for muscle, and abs are muscles, so exterior resistance is a must for abs…got it?!”

How to do it: Lie face-up with knees bent and feet flat on floor. Hold each side of a medium-grade resistance band in each hand (band should be looped around the leg of a couch or table, and anchored behind head for added resistance), and then crunch up, lifting shoulders off the ground. At the top of the move, contract abs, and then return to floor; repeat. Do 3-4 sets of 2-30 reps.

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What Many Pregnancies Have in Common With Kate Middleton's

Many American women might be having their children too close together, finds a new study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), once again raising questions about the ideal spacing between pregnancies. The report, based on data-crunching of 2011 birth certificates from 26 states and the District of Columbia (representing about 83% of the country’s births that year) found that 30% of women who’d had a child got pregnant again within 18 months.

Naturally, it’s every woman’s prerogative to decide when to have her kids. Most of us know plenty of women who’ve had kids close together with no negative effects. Kate Middleton—due this month—got pregnant with her second child a little more than 13 months after the birth of Prince George.

As Health.com has reported, research suggests that having pregnancies too close is less than ideal for both mom and baby. Experts believe it’s best for a mother’s body to have time to recover after carrying and delivering a child.

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Plus, studies have shown that women who wait less than 18 months after giving birth to conceive again are more likely to have a premature delivery, while waiting less than 12 months is associated with a higher risk for complications like placental abruption.

That said, the CDC report concludes that more research is needed to determine whether so-called “inter-pregnancy intervals” are independently related to maternal or infant problems—or whether factors such as mom’s age and pregnancy health behaviors come into play. In other words, there might be some risk factor associated with closely spaced pregnancies (such as lack of prenatal care or planning) that is responsible for the link, not the spacing itself.

At 33, Kate is young and healthy. Here’s to a joyous, uneventful royal birth. Oh, and if you mind the majority of bets being taken in England, it’s a girl.

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Who Owns Frozen Embryos? Sofia Vergara and Her Ex Duke It Out

UPDATE (April 30, 2015): Yesterday, Nick Loeb wrote a New York Times op-ed titled “Our Frozen Embryos Have a Right to Live.” In it, Loeb says he wants to be able to carry both embryos to term. He offers to pay all associated expenses and “take on full parenting responsibilities” and have Vergara declared an egg donor. “Keeping them frozen forever is tantamount to killing them,” he writes.

The relationship is over, but the bad memories—and a couple of frozen embryos—linger on.

There’s a new custody battle brewing in Hollywood; one that makes Halle Berry’s dustup with baby daddy Gabriel Aubry look like a day at Malibu Beach.

Modern Family’s sultry star, Sofia Vergara, and her former fiancé Nick Loeb are duking it out in court over a pair of frozen embryos the couple created when they were together.

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Loeb, who filed the papers in California under the name John Doe, is looking to stop Vergara (named as Jane Doe in the court documents) from having the option to destroy the embryos the two created via in vitro fertilization. The couple called it quits in May of last year after two attempts to conceive via surrogacy failed.

The papers, which were first revealed by In Touch Weekly, state that Loeb “seeks to ensure that the Female Embryos are not destroyed, but Jane Doe [that would be Vergara] refuses to agree to their preservation under all circumstances.”

It goes on to say that near the end of their relationship, according to the New York Post, “John attempted to get Jane to agree that, if one of the parties should die, the other party should control the Female Embryos. Jane refused to even respond to this request, apparently because she hoped for the female embryos to ultimately be destroyed.”

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Adding to the crazy, Loeb also accuses Vergara of being abusive during the couple’s tumultuous four-year relationship, alleging she “punched him the face on two occasions,” hurled a phone at his head (can you hear me now?!) and attacked him on multiple occasions, including—wait for it—while the two were at a fertility clinic named in the suit.

Gee, it kind of makes you wonder why Loeb would want a Mini-V, right? Well, a source, who talked to the New York Post, claims that moral beliefs, not necessarily a desire to use the embryos, are the reason for the move. “Nick believes life begins at conception, that life is life, it is horrible to keep them frozen, these are his babies,” the unidentified source said. “He hopes the filing will be a test case for how frozen embryos should be handled.”

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4 Health Products You Should Never Buy Online

Whatever you need, you can get it online. That can make shopping for health products a little bit, shall we say, sketchy. “The people selling certain products to you don’t care about your health and just want money. With greed comes a lot of fraud,” says Josephine Dlugopolski-Gach, assistant professor of internal medicine and pediatrics at Loyola University Health System. While you have to be careful with whatever you buy, these four products below can run you into a lot of trouble—and harm:

Certain prescription medications

If a site will let you buy meds without a prescription, that’s a big red flag—especially for certain medications. Listen to this warning from the Drug Enforcement Administration: “Buying online could mean doing time.” Even if you have good intentions, you can’t legally buy “controlled substances” online like Xanax or Ambien without an Rx. And prescriptions from cyber docs won’t cut it, says the DEA. The law is different depending on your state, but most require you to see a doctor you have a relationship with in person. In addition to that, buying from a bad site could leave you with medication that’s fake or contains dangerous ingredients. For example, the FDA purchased the flu-stopping medication Tamiflu online in order to test it. They found it wasn’t Tamiflu at all, but a combination of talc and acetaminophen.

It’s perfectly fine to buy prescription medication from a state-licensed US-based online pharmacy; these sites often can help you save money. To know if they’re legit, Dr. Dlugopolski-Gach suggests making sure they have an actual phone number, have a licensed pharmacist on staff, and require an Rx to fill your order. You can check the legitimacy of the site at the National Association of Boards of Pharmacy. And use common sense, “if the deal sounds too good to be true, you’re probably not going to get the right medication,” she says.

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Weight loss supplements

You never know what you’re going to get when you buy a weight loss supplement online. The FDA points out that in their testing, they’ve discovered supplements—even herbals—were tainted with hidden and unsafe ingredients. Many are also not FDA-approved, meaning their claims haven’t been checked out and aren’t regulated. (It’s on the individual companies to tell the truth. They don’t always do that.) “A lot of times, these weight loss pills are just stimulants. They contain a lot of caffeine, which is not safe, especially if you have a cardiac condition,” says Dr. Dlugopolski-Gach. “I’ve seen people go into the ER on the verge of a heart attack.” While building long-term healthy habits is often the best way to keep weight off, if you want to check out something that promises to help you lose weight or rev your metabolism, “tell your doctor what you’re interested in before you buy it, even if it’s marketed as natural,” she adds.

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Breast milk

You hear “breast is best”—but it’s not if it comes from an online source, suggests an editorial in The BMJ. The problem is, breast milk online is an unregulated industry, so it can be contaminated with viruses (like hepatitis or HIV), bacteria (if not stored or shipped properly) alcohol, prescription medication, and illegal drugs, notes Dr. Dlugopolski-Gach. What’s more, in a new study in the journal Pediatrics, researchers tested 102 samples and found 10% were topped off with cow’s milk, which can cause an allergic reaction. It’s understandable that people might want to buy breast milk–aka “liquid gold”–if they can’t produce their own due to cancer treatment or other reasons. Or that other women would want to donate or sell their milk if they produce more than enough. However, the temptation to make more money by adding cow’s milk might be too much for some online sellers. Organizations like Eats on Feets and Only the Breast  (which broker such sales) do recommend pasteurizing all milk and screening donors for HIV and other diseases (among other safety suggestions), but many people don’t follow the guidelines, according to a CNN report. “If you can breastfeed that’s wonderful, but if you can’t, formula is the next best thing,” says Dr. Dlugopolski-Gach. “It’s not worth risking going to an online source and getting breast milk from a stranger.” If you do want to donate milk, there are nonprofit milk banks that collect, test, pasteurize, and store human milk for infants, mostly at-risk neonates in hospitals; go to the Human Milk Banking Association of North America for more information.

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Hormone products

If you are approaching menopause, you might be tempted to buy hormone replacement medications, creams, or herbs online. “Some women want a quick fix to get their sex drive or chutzpah back,” explains Diana Bitner, MD, an ob/gyn at Spectrum Health Medical Group in Grand Rapids, MI. “I have patients who have bought testosterone pellets on their own. They end up taking so much of the hormone they have really bad side effects, like hair growth, voices deepening, and rage issues,” she explains. Many of these products are not effective, safe, and contain variable amounts of active ingredients.

Same goes for buying soy. “Women will buy a ton of this online and say it doesn’t make them feel better, so they buy more and more,” Dr. Bitner explains. Only about 30% of women’s bodies can actually utilize soy to lessen menopause symptoms, so you may be wasting your money. For any hormone treatment, even if it’s labeled “natural” you need a doctor’s guidance; she can ensure you get the right hormones in the right amount every time that work.

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Why We Love Kourtney Kardashian's Latest Sexy Instagram Photo

You could say that Kourtney Kardashian is out…and she’s proud.

The eldest sister of the Kardashian-Jenner clan celebrated her birthday (Happy 36th!) in Las Vegas over the weekend with family and friends. But before snuffing out the candles on her rose-festooned cake and hanging with her friends, she managed to squeeze in some important business.

On Saturday, the reality star posted a photo of herself reclining on a marble-top island, decked out in a tube top, skin-tight pants, and a pair of, um, pumps. The caption read, “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.”

 

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Well, not quite, but no matter: This is a sexy Instagram we can get behind. And apparently, Insta followers agree: So far the post of this down-to-earth mama has racked up more than 540,000 “Atta-girl!” likes, and counting.

This isn’t the first time that Kardashian—a mom of three who gave birth to her third child, Reign Aston Disick, last December—has shown those maternal instincts: During an earlier Vegas jaunt a few weeks ago, she shared another Insta snap of herself pumping breast milk, joining a slew of other celeb moms, such as Gisele Bundchen and Alyssa Milano, who have embraced the #brelfies craze. “After the show,” she wrote, “it’s the after party.”

 

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Why C

By Steven ReinbergHealthDay Reporter

WEDNESDAY, May 20, 2015 (HealthDay News) — Women who deliver their first baby by cesarean section are more likely to need blood transfusions and be admitted to intensive care units than women who opt for a vaginal delivery, U.S. health officials reported Wednesday.

In addition, after that first C-section, nine out of 10 women will have their next infant delivered the same way, said report author Sally Curtin, a statistician at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Health Statistics.

“Having that first cesarean changes everything,” she said. “It changes the picture of whether you are even going to attempt labor next time.”

There are more health risks for mothers for repeat cesarean than vaginal deliveries, Curtin said. These risks include the need for transfusions, a ruptured uterus, the need to be admitted to an intensive care unit and an increased likelihood of requiring a hysterectomy, she added.

Curtin noted that cesarean deliveries still account for only 15 percent of all births. Most mothers, 85 percent, do not have a cesarean the first time they give birth, she said.

“It would be more fruitful to try to reduce the rate of primary cesareans, because if that woman has that first cesarean, the chances are nine out of 10 she’ll have a second,” she said.

Dr. Mark DeFrancesco, president of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, said, “Today’s report on maternal complications underscores the importance of efforts to avoid primary cesarean deliveries.”

Although cesarean sections can be lifesaving procedures, they are overused in the United States, he said. “In recent years, roughly one in three deliveries was performed with a cesarean,” DeFrancesco said.

Dr. Catherine Herway, assistant director of maternal-fetal medicine at Staten Island University Hospital in New York City, said many doctors opt for a second cesarean delivery to avoid the chances of being sued if something happens to the baby.

“To offer a vaginal delivery, you have to be in the hospital and be prepared for complications,” she said. “Repeat cesareans are so much easier and quicker. I have seen the number of people who are offering vaginal deliveries after a cesarean has really dropped off,” she said.

Herway said the way to avoid repeat cesareans is not to have the first one. “Women should educate themselves,” she said. And doctors shouldn’t be in a rush to do one unless there is a real medical reason for it, she said.

Other key findings in the report include:

Rates of complications were higher for cesarean than vaginal deliveries: Transfusion and intensive care unit admissions rates were highest for first-time cesarean deliveries (525 and 383 per 100,000 live births); rates of ruptured uterus and unplanned hysterectomy were highest for repeat cesarean deliveries (89 and 143 per 100,000 live births).

Higher rates of complications for cesarean compared with vaginal deliveries were found for nearly all age groups and for women from all racial and ethnic groups.

Women who had vaginal deliveries had lower rates for all complications compared with those who had cesarean deliveries.

Women who had a cesarean delivery but who had a vaginal birth for a second baby had lower rates for most complications. But those who failed labor had more complications than women who scheduled repeat cesarean deliveries. This was especially true for ruptured uterus, which was about seven times higher (495 per 100,000 live births compared with 66 per 100,000 live births).

More information

Visit the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists for more on C-sections.


The Sad Beauty Trend New Moms Don't Need

After a workout, when you’re sick, when you’ve just had a baby: There are certain times in life when nobody’s expecting you to look picture perfect. Sadly, it seems like some new moms haven’t gotten the memo, or just don’t care. Today recently reported on the trend of mothers hiring hair stylists and makeup artists to do them up before they take that first photo with their new baby.

Perhaps it’s the Facebook and Instagram effect—we’re always on display these days, so why not post-birth? Perhaps we can blame Kim Kardashian (because, hey, why not blame her for what’s wrong in this world). Whatever the reason, this is becoming A Thing, and it’s a shame. Women have long had to answer to the calling of looking gorgeous, and today there are more ways than ever to do it whether it’s by Botox injections or some advanced hair straightening technique. When you’ve just been through labor or had a C-section, though, nobody’s expecting a glamour shot. Why put that pressure on yourself?

By all means, women should apply makeup if it makes them feel comfortable (concealer: every new mom’s BFF), but there’s no reason to call in a pro. See: bonding time with baby. See also: better things to spend your money on. And then there’s the fact that, really, this isn’t about mom. As Savannah Guthrie said, in response to the props she got on social media last summer for posing makeup-free (and hairdo-free) after giving birth to her daughter, “I figured everyone would be looking at little Vale, anyway. She is the star of the pictures, after all.”

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